This is something that happened to a friend of mine in her own words.
“So, on Friday night my friend and I were at her house and wanted to get out and do something for the…
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4.5% of the men in the United States is an incredibly high number – that translates into over six million men.
If you added up every US citizen who was officially unemployed or looking for work in 2001, that would be less than the total number of rapists.
If you added up every US citizen who is Jewish, that would still be less than the total number of rapists.
If you added up every teenage boy who had any sort of job – an afterschool job, a summer job, working full-time after dropping out, including all of those – you’d still have over a million fewer people then the total number of rapists.
There are twice as many rapists in the USA as there are single mothers.
For every drunk driver who is in a fatal accident this year, there are over 500 rapists.
If you take every doctor and nurse in the United States; and you added them to every librarian, every cashier, every cop, every postal clerk, and every bank teller in the whole country; you still wouldn’t have as many people as the number of rapists in the United States.
(Think of that a second – think of how often, in your daily life, you’ve seen cops and cashiers and all those other folks. Odds are, you’ve run into rapists more often than that).
To paraphrase Tim Wise: In short, “only” 4.5% of the male population is a lot of people, so that even by the most optimistic assessment of how many men are rapists, there are literally millions out there who not only would but have raped a woman. When combined with those who are less vicious – those who haven’t raped, but would be willing to in the right circumstances, and those who would make excuses for why other men rape, it becomes clear just how real a widespread a problem rape and rape-supportive attitudes are among men today."
Also: why you shouldn’t give people shit for seeing every male stranger as a potential rapist.
Right…so what you’re saying is…a text (which, let’s be honest, the guy could have sent to himself from her phone if he was determined to do so) is a binding contract that means sex is going to happen. Even if she changes her mind later, ol’ dude has The Text so it wasn’t rape. Case Closed.
Oh, and the best part: The op-ed was written by a woman.
Should I tear down the ‘protect yourself from sexual assault’ poster hanging in the post library Y/N?
#323 almost could have been written by me in high school, except i was never physically assaulted by my boyfriend’s best friend. that might have been the tipping point, but my boyfriend still said he couldn’t do anything about the things his friend would say to, about, and around me & my friends. thank god nothing more than that happened to me, although it freaks me out that that could just be because the friend was loyal to my boyfriend and not because he respected me.
i really hope this guy i knew gets some help because that shit can’t go on into his adulthood… ! ! !
fuck, reading this brought back terrible memories but in the end made me feel so much better - “I can’t tell you how to bring this up without making your boyfriend defensive. He SHOULD feel bad. He SHOULD feel upset and defensive. Because his friend is a budding sexual predator” … “and he doesn’t want to do anything about it because the guy is “fun to hang out with.” Thinking about that and realizing how very, very out of line he is must feel pretty bad! HE should be the one writing to me, or at least, he should be the one worrying about your feelings and the potential social fallout of tolerating this guy. Not you. It shouldn’t be your job to have to come up with solutions for this.”
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