This is something that happened to a friend of mine in her own words.
“So, on Friday night my friend and I were at her house and wanted to get out and do something for the…
“ I later found out from another friend (she is the same age as Boyfriend and [creeper], and went to high school with both of them) that [creeper] was exactly the same way back then, and there was an instance where Boyfriend had attempted to call [creeper] out on his behaviour. Apparently, [creeper] had some sort of frightening breakdown where he went on about how he’s such a horrible person, and threatened to hurt himself, or commit suicide, or something along those lines. After being told this, I started to understand why Boyfriend and everyone else had been treating [creeper] as if he were so “fragile”, but hearing that story made me even more angry. It became clear to me that [creeper] has been emotionally manipulating my boyfriend, and probably others, so he can continue his horrible behaviour without being called out. ”
#323 almost could have been written by me in high school, except i was never physically assaulted by my boyfriend’s best friend. that might have been the tipping point, but my boyfriend still said he couldn’t do anything about the things his friend would say to, about, and around me & my friends. thank god nothing more than that happened to me, although it freaks me out that that could just be because the friend was loyal to my boyfriend and not because he respected me.
i really hope this guy i knew gets some help because that shit can’t go on into his adulthood… ! ! !
fuck, reading this brought back terrible memories but in the end made me feel so much better - “I can’t tell you how to bring this up without making your boyfriend defensive. He SHOULD feel bad. He SHOULD feel upset and defensive. Because his friend is a budding sexual predator” … “and he doesn’t want to do anything about it because the guy is “fun to hang out with.” Thinking about that and realizing how very, very out of line he is must feel pretty bad! HE should be the one writing to me, or at least, he should be the one worrying about your feelings and the potential social fallout of tolerating this guy. Not you. It shouldn’t be your job to have to come up with solutions for this.”
Woman at the DC Slutwalk
what an awesome sign. wish i could have seen DC slutwalk after going to one in boston last spring, and learning more about other impressions of the slutwalk ‘movement’
“ Let me put it to you this way. Rape culture is a culture in which people who have survived a violent crime are asked to laugh about it because other people think it’s funny. ”