This is something that happened to a friend of mine in her own words.
“So, on Friday night my friend and I were at her house and wanted to get out and do something for the…
January 20, 2013
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“ I later found out from another friend (she is the same age as Boyfriend and [creeper], and went to high school with both of them) that [creeper] was exactly the same way back then, and there was an instance where Boyfriend had attempted to call [creeper] out on his behaviour. Apparently, [creeper] had some sort of frightening breakdown where he went on about how he’s such a horrible person, and threatened to hurt himself, or commit suicide, or something along those lines. After being told this, I started to understand why Boyfriend and everyone else had been treating [creeper] as if he were so “fragile”, but hearing that story made me even more angry. It became clear to me that [creeper] has been emotionally manipulating my boyfriend, and probably others, so he can continue his horrible behaviour without being called out. ”
My friend group has a case of the Creepy Dude by Bunny (@ CaptainAwkward)
#323 almost could have been written by me in high school, except i was never physically assaulted by my boyfriend’s best friend. that might have been the tipping point, but my boyfriend still said he couldn’t do anything about the things his friend would say to, about, and around me & my friends. thank god nothing more than that happened to me, although it freaks me out that that could just be because the friend was loyal to my boyfriend and not because he respected me.
i really hope this guy i knew gets some help because that shit can’t go on into his adulthood… ! ! !
fuck, reading this brought back terrible memories but in the end made me feel so much better - “I can’t tell you how to bring this up without making your boyfriend defensive. He SHOULD feel bad. He SHOULD feel upset and defensive. Because his friend is a budding sexual predator” … “and he doesn’t want to do anything about it because the guy is “fun to hang out with.” Thinking about that and realizing how very, very out of line he is must feel pretty bad! HE should be the one writing to me, or at least, he should be the one worrying about your feelings and the potential social fallout of tolerating this guy. Not you. It shouldn’t be your job to have to come up with solutions for this.”
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December 27, 2012
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Seriously, USA?: just shut up.
First, a story.
So, my first semester of my freshman year of college, I took this Intro to Women’s Studies class. The class met for five hours a week, one two hour session and one three hour session, and the breakdown of students was what I eventually discovered to be the typical…
July 10, 2012
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** TW rape ** So a Girl Walks into a Comedy Clubw
: So a Girl Walks into a Comedy Club…. (tw: rape)
fuck Daniel tosh
October 13, 2011
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September 21, 2011
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August 25, 2011
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TW: Rape Culture - A Rant About Street Harassment
TW: Rape Culture
You are the reason I don’t feel safe walking home at night. You are the reason I keep my keys in my hand, testing their sharp edges. You are the reason I wonder how quickly I can run away. You are the reason I weigh the pros and cons of fighting back. You are the reason I wonder if I would ever be able to get over it if I were raped. You are the reason my drink is always in my hand. You are the reason I will tell a friend to call me when I’m supposed to be home from a date. You are the reason I don’t smile at strangers on the street, because I worry that a simple smile will be interpreted as a come-on. You are the reason I cross my legs and arms and avoid eye contact with strangers on public transportation. You are the reason my headphones are always in my ears, even if I’m not listening to music. You are the reason I have to fake a cell phone conversation. You are the reason I have to make an actual call if I am walking alone.
in short: this is an amazing article. Posted a few weeks back, but no less relevant. Read it here.
This is one of the most powerful pieces on intersectionality and rape culture I have ever read. It’s long, but I highly recommend reading the entire thing.
it did a good job incorporating intersectionality, definitely read!!
so so so so so good. i needed this.
got the creepy leer and the “heyy laaadies” two times my first night back in the city. and giving the guy the finger didn’t make up for it. not when he just laughed and say “i was trying to be nice” fuck you and fuck your friend who walked next to you and laughed with you.
-I hate that when I am walking hand in hand with, or am even just physically close to, another self-identified woman, queer person or trans person who may or may not be my date, you will leer, say something, make a face. I hate that you will still hit on me, as if the person I am with could never fulfill me because they are not a cis, straight man. -
this part is perfect.
and on a happier note, i really loved her description of walking through the rain. my campus is beautiful in the rain and I have gotten to appreciate that these past 2 weeks.
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August 13, 2011
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Woman at the DC Slutwalk
what an awesome sign. wish i could have seen DC slutwalk after going to one in boston last spring, and learning more about other impressions of the slutwalk ‘movement’
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May 10, 2011
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“ Let me put it to you this way. Rape culture is a culture in which people who have survived a violent crime are asked to laugh about it because other people think it’s funny. ”
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